Recently I got back in touch with some of my old friends from high school. Admittedly it had been a while since we had any correspondence and it was nice to catch up. One of my friends was a brand new first time mom to a healthy baby boy, and another had two daughters with curly, blonde pigtails that recently turned 2 and 4.
They each told me happy stories about being mothers and how their lives revolved around their precious kids. I was happy for my friends as they clearly were at a joyful stage in their lives, and talking about their kids made them beam with pride and joy.
Strange, Peculiar, and Just Plain Weird
It was a strange experience catching up with them though. Even as I smiled and laughed with them, I couldn’t help feeling more and more peculiar in my heart as the visit went on. It wasn’t that they were bad hosts, or the fact that we weren’t any good at keeping in touch over the years. It wasn’t even jealousy I was feeling either, it was just plain weird.
After I left, I couldn’t shake the funny feelings I had inside. When I got home I sat down on the couch by myself and started to pick apart my thoughts. What I realized was that I felt strange in my heart because the person I was when I knew these friends in high school was a completely different person than who I am now. It almost felt like I’d lost a piece of myself, but in a good way. On top of this, it was a bit heavy to process how our lives were headed in completely different directions. Neither theirs nor mine was better or worse than the other, we were just diverging paths in a big way and had so little left in common.
Branch Out And Change Your Circles
When you decide you want to live an untemplate lifestyle and go against the grain, a lot of things change. Time takes on a new meaning once you no longer dread Monday’s and every day of the week feels like Friday’s after 5. It may be hard to imagine time that way now, but trust me it is possible! Your time will also become more valuable as you maximize all of your free time to the fullest whether it’s to work on a side business, network with mentors, brainstorm ideas, get serious about personal finance, backpack around the world, or become a health guru.
You’ll probably find that you have less and less in common with your old friends like I did and that’s perfectly ok! It will feel strange at times when you think about how different your life is now than it used to be, but then you’ll smile from ear to ear when you realize how much happier you are now. Instead of lamenting about friends you’ve lost, change circles and connect with other untemplaters who like you want more out of life than just punching a time card and watching four hours of TV each day. I overcame my TV addiction last year and only regret not doing it sooner!
Untemplate And Go Against The Grain
Have you ever noticed that if you’re sitting next to someone and they turn to look at something, you find yourself turning to see what they’re looking at? It happens all the time! It can be hard to stay focused on our entrepreneurial goals and living an untemplate lifestyle when there are people all around us tempting us to look away and pull us back into the herd. But going against the grain and blocking out these distractions is what makes an untemplate lifestyle so great!
Stick with what you believe in, and don’t worry about what others are doing or are trying to convince you to do. Sure I still wonder when is the best time to have kids, but I’m so much happier following my passions to blog and travel right now even though all my friends are busy raising kids and relentlessly asking me when I’m going to join them as a mom.
Life is too short to do what everybody else is doing and to live your life just to please someone else. Stay confident in your convictions and beliefs, untemplate your mind, set your own agendas and priorities, and make the most of your life while you go against the grain.
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I–
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference. – Robert Frost
Untemplaters, how different are you as a person today than 5, 10, 15 years ago? Have you ever had an epiphany when you decided to untemplate and go against the grain? How do you stay focused when everyone around you is trying to pull you into the herd?