Letting Go of Fear Will Set You Free
For the first half of my life, I was the type of girl who was scared of everything. I hid in the corners at parties, turned bright red when my teachers called on me in class, dreaded walking up and introducing myself to people, was terrified of talking to guys, and shied away from big crowds. In other words, I was a total wimp.
I started to grow out of these fears when I was halfway through high school, but I was still a socially awkward mess. My self-esteem issues made me an easy target for getting picked on and it sucked. I let the dumbest things embarrass me and my fears were paralyzing my everyday life.
It wasn’t until my early twenties that I finally started to realize how dumb it was to be scared of everything. It really didn’t matter what other people thought of me, if I screwed up, and that I didn’t know all the answers or the right things to say in every situation. I started to let go of my fears one by one, and embrace change. If you want more out of life and love, you have to believe in yourself first and then start taking risks.
Life Is Too Short to Stay Stuck
In my quest for change, I decided I needed to get some spice in my life. My inner voice told me the first step was to escape from sleepy suburbia. I wanted more culture, better weather, great food, new opportunities, and an exciting social life. So I packed 2 suitcases, bought a 1-way ticket cross country to San Francisco, and never looked back.
I didn’t have a job waiting for me there, no family members nearby, and only about $500 in my checking account. Risky? Yes! But I was tired of feeling stuck and living in other people’s shadows, so I took a chance.
It was the craziest thing I’d ever done and it felt fantastic! I finally felt like my life was in motion. It took a lot of networking, job applications, and tons of rejections, but the more I reached out to people and put myself out there, the more things started to move. I followed every lead and ended up getting an amazing job with a small business owner.
If I hadn’t made the choice to let go of my fears and start taking risks, I would still be a scared and lonely gal with one boring and unsuccessful life.
Happiness is a Choice
Some people are born optimists. Others like me, and perhaps you too, have to stumble along and go through all sorts of craziness and darkness before finding a path of positive thinking.
My life was stuck in a stand still before I started to take risks. I was depressed, moody, and frustrated until I learned to squash my fears, stop worrying so much, and focus on the positives. Once I decided to get up, take action and break out of my funk, my life turned around completely. If I can do it, you can too!
You don’t need all the answers now or a laundry list of awards under your belt to be happy. Make the choice to find the positives in yourself and every situation. You’re more powerful than you think!
The power of our minds
Once I began to take control of my thoughts and started thinking in a new way, my life started moving forward. My mind had been holding me hostage for years by filling my thoughts with fears of failure, fears of embarrassment, fears of taking action.
Untemplater will show you how to shatter the template lifestyle, but ultimately YOU have to believe that you can have a better life, and be willing to change. Even if this isn’t something you’re comfortable with right now, that’s okay. We all have different tolerances for risk and embracing change.
Just try to keep an open mind and recognize that even though our minds are powerful, they can also get lazy and stall. Apathy is a clever trick our mind traps us with because it attacks when we’re weak.
So if you want to change your life around, you better be prepared to dodge these types of traps. It takes determination, initiative, and optimism to get your life off of autopilot.
The Untemplate Lifestyle Has Never Been More Realistic
The amount of free resources out there today is phenomenal, especially since I can remember the days before the Internet. There’s no reason to keep making excuses and putting your dreams on hold anymore. If you’re willing to put in the effort, you can break free of the fears and roadblocks that are leaving you stuck in a template lifestyle.
Focus your energy on seeking out the career, relationships, and life experiences that make you come alive!
Untemplaters, what are your biggest fears now and what fears have you overcome? What are you willing to do to shatter the template lifestyle? Are you ready to start thinking like an optimist?
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