I caught up with some old competitors and a client for drinks and food the other night. The client was in town from Asia and game 1 of the Giants vs. Tigers World Series Game was on.
I’ve known everybody for years, so it was good to catch up. Originally, we were just going to get a couple drinks, but when the Giants started turning it on with Pablo Sandoval cracking 3 homers, we decided to get some food as well.
As an unemployed guy, I’m more conscious of my expenses. My eyes bugged out a little when I saw the $10 price for a mojito. But, given the Giants were winning, and everybody else was drinking, I decided what the heck. I ended up drinking two mojitos and digging in on the crab cakes, pizzas, artichokes, and sliders. All in all, I probably consumed about $40 worth of food and beverages.
When the bill came, I whipped out my rewards credit card to pay my fair share. One of my old competitors turned to me and said, “Don’t worry about it! You’re unemployed.” I kept on asking her whether she was sure, until I finally acquiesced. I’ve always wanted a sugar mama!
There were three people with three corporate cards that had $150-$200 per head limits. Therefore, picking up a $200 bill for five people was not a big deal.
I always offer to pay the bill, or at least contribute my fair share. Yet, I didn’t feel bad not contributing this time around, nor did my ego hurt being called “unemployed.” I am so used to working, earning a paycheck, and paying for clients that it actually felt great not having to pay for once! The ladies who paid the bill even gave an ever so slight hint of pity. I kinda digged it like a kid digs his mama for taking care of him while sick.
My old competitors don’t know how much wealth I’ve accumulated, how much passive income I generate, or how much I make online. All they know is that I negotiated my layoff and am currently unemployed. They showed kindness by grabbing the bill, and telling me they’ll keep a look out for me if any job opportunities come my way. I did tell them I was working on my own business online, but gave no details.
Being unemployed not out of choice must not be so great. However, even if I was unemployed against my will, I think I’d look at the positives, such as not having to contribute to a client outing bill. Perhaps if the client wasn’t around and nobody could expense the bill, that would be a different story. But in this instance, I enjoyed being taken care of.
I just wonder if this being taken care of feeling starts getting addicting to the point where I start expecting someone else or the government to always take care of me?
Untemplaters, would you have revealed to your old competitors that you’re financially independent? Or, would you simply accept you are unemployed and allow them to pay for you? Does being taken care of get addicting? Does wanting someone else to feel sorry for you become too alluring?