Do you remember those kids in high school who sat in the way back of class, goofed off, or didn’t come to class at all? Or what about those kids who grunged out, tatted up, and gang banged their hairs? I used to be one of those kids until I realized I didn’t want to short circuit my life. When grades carry over from freshman year all the way to senior year, I couldn’t afford to mess around.
Because of my immaturity, I ended up getting a mediocre 3.3 GPA out of 4.0 my freshman year. My friends and I were into everything, and I mean everything. Smoking, drinking, hacking, and looking like punks. Nothing we were into was conducive to us going to class. When you have a shiny new motorbike at the age of 14 waiting to be ridden, and it’s parked in the woods where your parents or teachers can’t find it, all you want to do is escape!
Being “cool” has its perks no doubt. Your classmates are nice to you and girls want to be with you. But, being too cool can ruin your life if you become overly rebellious and constantly get into trouble. One time a big fella pushed me over while I was tying my shoe during class, so I punched him right where his glasses shattered into his eyeball. That was a nice two day suspension. If you get mixed up with the law, you’ll also end up wondering everyday whether someone will ever give you a chance again.
When I talk to grade school kids nowadays, I tell them quite sternly to stop messing around. Listen to your parents, stop using, and start abusing the books. Trying survive adolescence is such a harrowing experience for many. The worst is when a kid purposefully does poorly in class so others will stop picking on him.
BEING TOO COOL AS AN ADULT
It’s pretty sad when you come across adults who are obviously trying too hard to relive their high school days of coolness. You know, the woman in braids and a mini-skirt, or the man with the pierced eyebrows and skater hair. If you are 40 years old and no longer in shape, nobody wants to see your jelly rolls. If you need a job, your chances of getting hired are going to go down the tubes if you aren’t willing to wear formal clothing during the interview. You don’t need all that attention after decades of working on your insecurity. Grow up already.
Some kids never grow up and feel they now have to make a statement to be somebody. Marketers know this, which is why commercials try and push the dream to get you to buy things you cannot afford. How many times have you come across someone who is making ridiculous car payments for a car they cannot even pay in cash? How many examples do you see of people buying all the expensive shoes, clothing, and bags while still living at home with their parents?
I’ve got one friend who refuses to wear a blazer or a suite to an interview. Guess what? He’s bee unemployed for 18 months because he can never get past the first round. “Suites are for monkeys!” he says. Who’s the caged animal now living off the government with four roommates as a grown adult with no savings?
Being too cool as an adult is not cool. They can tell us that most people have no imagination and are all conformist zombies following the status quo. It’s their way of justifying being stuck in a perpetual state of high school insecurity where they didn’t do well and are now paying the price. It’s too difficult admitting failure, so they continue to fail over and over again without growing up.
When you’r still bragging to your friends about your high school quarterback or prom queen days, you know you’ve got a problem.
DIVERSITY IS GREAT IF YOU DON’T FORCE YOURS ONTO OTHERS
Visit cities like Amsterdam, San Francisco, and New York and you’ll find a tremendous amount of diversity. In fact, I’m pretty sure in a hundred years, most all America’s cities will be as diverse as these three. Everything works well until one person starts imposing their beliefs on others. When the nudists in San Francisco started intentionally trying to flash their bare, disgusting asses in public transportation with children everywhere, that’s when the City finally dropped the hammer to cut that crap out.
You’ll come across “too cool” people all the time who try and make you feel bad for being you. They’ll tell you how they don’t care about money, travel the world, lead exciting lifestyles and are so unique. Don’t worry about them because they are insecure. They find it necessary to impose their ideas on you to justify their own poor decisions. More often than not, these are the kids in high school who slacked off and are now deadbeat losers.
The next time someone tries and makes you feel bad for leading a conventional lifestyle, lend them a helping hand. It’s hard to be a 28 year old with no safety net, no career, and no significant other. Quitting your job at age 25 just because you didn’t like it with no back up plan is stupid. Believing you can do great things while just putting in four hours a week is a genius marketing idea that will get the creator rich, but not you.
And if you’re one of the cool kids described in this article, grow up already. Nobody is going to bail you out but you.
* Go ahead and be a nonconformist. This is what the site is all about. Just don’t expect anybody to conform to you.
* Being “too cool” is subjective. The term can be used to describe chasing a trend to overstaying your welcome.
* There’s a balance to everything. At some point, it goes beyond just you.
Examples Of Being Too Cool
* Purposefully doing poorly in school so you can avoid being picked on, or fit in with the in crowd.
* Quitting your job after only a couple years with no backup plan and minimal savings just because you feel life owes you more.
* Not willing to wear appropriate interview attire because “suits are for monkeys.”
* Unwilling to buy insurance because insurance companies are evil.
* Starting another start-up in a completely saturated space because everybody else is doing it and you think you’re special.
* Going against the Federal Reserve and Warren Buffett in investing because it’s always good to be a contrarian investor.
* Blowing all your money on cars, clothing, travel like an idiot because you think you can always make money or get bailed out by the Bank of Mom and Dad, the government, or a spouse.
Untemplaters, why do people impose their ways on others? Do you think there are adults still stuck in high school glory days ala Al Bundy from Married With Children? Why can’t people move on? What are some other too cool examples you can think of?
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