Comments on: How I Navigate an Unseen Path http://untemplater.com/self-improvement/how-i-navigate-an-unseen-path/ Shatter the Template Lifestyle Mon, 21 May 2012 19:17:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Elkehttp://untemplater.com/self-improvement/how-i-navigate-an-unseen-path/#comment-1694 Elke Fri, 05 Feb 2010 20:00:05 +0000 http://untemplater.com/?p=610#comment-1694 As a student myself, I can relate to this so much! I'll be starting an MBA in belgium next year but im starting to doubt now, is it worth it? am i going to learn enough for what this year is going to cost? do i actually need that degree? i guess i need to think more about what i do want to do :-) As a student myself, I can relate to this so much! I’ll be starting an MBA in belgium next year but im starting to doubt now, is it worth it? am i going to learn enough for what this year is going to cost? do i actually need that degree?
i guess i need to think more about what i do want to do :-)

]]> By: Financial Samuraihttp://untemplater.com/self-improvement/how-i-navigate-an-unseen-path/#comment-803 Financial Samurai Sat, 16 Jan 2010 22:15:09 +0000 http://untemplater.com/?p=610#comment-803 Going to grad school is a great way to find oneself, but hopefully you can find yourself now or during your years of working after college. Unfortunately, grad school is a very expensive way to find yourself, unless you already know what you want to do. Gluck! Going to grad school is a great way to find oneself, but hopefully you can find yourself now or during your years of working after college. Unfortunately, grad school is a very expensive way to find yourself, unless you already know what you want to do. Gluck!

]]> By: Trapdoorhttp://untemplater.com/self-improvement/how-i-navigate-an-unseen-path/#comment-423 Trapdoor Tue, 12 Jan 2010 13:40:28 +0000 http://untemplater.com/?p=610#comment-423 [...] of Business, Mobile Lifestyle, Personal Finance and Self Improvement. Dariane Nabor’s post, How I Navigate an Unseen Path, is one I can relate to as this is where I am at the moment. I also look forward to Jun [...] [...] of Business, Mobile Lifestyle, Personal Finance and Self Improvement. Dariane Nabor’s post, How I Navigate an Unseen Path, is one I can relate to as this is where I am at the moment. I also look forward to Jun [...]

]]> By: Jun Loayzahttp://untemplater.com/self-improvement/how-i-navigate-an-unseen-path/#comment-284 Jun Loayza Fri, 08 Jan 2010 21:08:59 +0000 http://untemplater.com/?p=610#comment-284 Dariane, the moment we had our first chat on Skype I knew that you had something special - a desire and drive to do something great, but lacked the specific guidance or life experience to know exactly what you want to do.When I was an undergrad, I looked to people like Dave Liu (founder of http://thinkgos.com) and Yu-kai Chou for inspiration. They helped me become the entrepreneur that I am today and kicked my butt when I was going in the wrong direction.I hope to provide you with the same guidance and mentorship so that you can do much better than I have done. Dariane, the moment we had our first chat on Skype I knew that you had something special – a desire and drive to do something great, but lacked the specific guidance or life experience to know exactly what you want to do.

When I was an undergrad, I looked to people like Dave Liu (founder of http://thinkgos.com) and Yu-kai Chou for inspiration. They helped me become the entrepreneur that I am today and kicked my butt when I was going in the wrong direction.

I hope to provide you with the same guidance and mentorship so that you can do much better than I have done.

]]> By: Sajid Akhtarhttp://untemplater.com/self-improvement/how-i-navigate-an-unseen-path/#comment-270 Sajid Akhtar Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:04:50 +0000 http://untemplater.com/?p=610#comment-270 Hi Dariane, I admire you for having taken the leap towards untemplating your life as it's something I've dreamt of for many years but never really set out to change the status quo, and now at 25, I guess it's not too late. I tried to follow the template in different areas of engineering but the lack of satisfaction forced me to quit. Then i decided on a masters in finance....thought that if i'm gonna follow the template then might as well go where the money is - but i didnt complete the masters and couldnt motivate myself to apply for finance jobs that I knew I didnt want. I've always felt lost, not knowing what i'm good at and what would be my dream career, but I've come to realise that not knowing can be a good thing. It just means that you get to try many diverse things and learn a lot in the process. Like you, i feel that i'm a jack of all trades but master of none. I agree that acting against what is expected of you is troubling, especially what family expects of you. That's something I'll have to overcome as well as self-deprecating thoughts/behaviour. Social media is something that i've only recently embraced and thankfully it's allowed to find like minded people. Feels good to know there are others out there going through the same thing. Hi Dariane,
I admire you for having taken the leap towards untemplating your life as it’s something I’ve dreamt of for many years but never really set out to change the status quo, and now at 25, I guess it’s not too late. I tried to follow the template in different areas of engineering but the lack of satisfaction forced me to quit. Then i decided on a masters in finance….thought that if i’m gonna follow the template then might as well go where the money is – but i didnt complete the masters and couldnt motivate myself to apply for finance jobs that I knew I didnt want. I’ve always felt lost, not knowing what i’m good at and what would be my dream career, but I’ve come to realise that not knowing can be a good thing. It just means that you get to try many diverse things and learn a lot in the process. Like you, i feel that i’m a jack of all trades but master of none. I agree that acting against what is expected of you is troubling, especially what family expects of you. That’s something I’ll have to overcome as well as self-deprecating thoughts/behaviour. Social media is something that i’ve only recently embraced and thankfully it’s allowed to find like minded people. Feels good to know there are others out there going through the same thing.

]]> By: Keithhttp://untemplater.com/self-improvement/how-i-navigate-an-unseen-path/#comment-231 Keith Thu, 07 Jan 2010 20:54:25 +0000 http://untemplater.com/?p=610#comment-231 Well said. I'm approaching 30 and I still feel the same way. But I, too, have made the same decision. Perhaps we're on the right path when we're not on one at all. Well said. I’m approaching 30 and I still feel the same way. But I, too, have made the same decision. Perhaps we’re on the right path when we’re not on one at all.

]]> By: Pamhttp://untemplater.com/self-improvement/how-i-navigate-an-unseen-path/#comment-189 Pam Thu, 07 Jan 2010 12:45:49 +0000 http://untemplater.com/?p=610#comment-189 I am not really at gen Y (just hit 31 so right on the border) however I got really lucky when I was in school. I was in my 3rd year of engineering and wanted to go on a study abroad trip to France. I managed to get a professer at my Uni to give me a job for two months and that that two month study term has lead me to where I am today.Sometimes the smallest decisions can make a huge impact. I decided to do grad school because there weren't many jobs at home and by the time I was in my second year of my master's degree I had a job offer and have been with the company since I left school. I have been overseas about numerous times (which is a big goal of mine) and all work funded.The one warning I will say is that...I struggle on a fine line between wanting to do more for my employer than they deserve and wanting them to give me more than I have earned. If you look at your life as a business you wouldn't give someone with no experience a 100K job and 10 weeks of leave a year.That being said I would never work for a company that expeceted me to have no life and didn't value the skills I bring.I will say though that when and opportunity came my way - I said yes....Do you want to go to Brisbane, Aus for three months (need to leave in about a week) - yes....Do you want to move to Australia for a year or so - YES - can you leave for the middle of nowhere tonight? Maybe not a hell yes but a yes as I have taken a lot more lucrative opportunities.Don/t sacrifice your life for work but don't expect work to be there and wonderful if you're not willing to give anything of yourself.Just something to consider. I am not really at gen Y (just hit 31 so right on the border) however I got really lucky when I was in school. I was in my 3rd year of engineering and wanted to go on a study abroad trip to France. I managed to get a professer at my Uni to give me a job for two months and that that two month study term has lead me to where I am today.

Sometimes the smallest decisions can make a huge impact. I decided to do grad school because there weren’t many jobs at home and by the time I was in my second year of my master’s degree I had a job offer and have been with the company since I left school. I have been overseas about numerous times (which is a big goal of mine) and all work funded.

The one warning I will say is that…I struggle on a fine line between wanting to do more for my employer than they deserve and wanting them to give me more than I have earned. If you look at your life as a business you wouldn’t give someone with no experience a 100K job and 10 weeks of leave a year.

That being said I would never work for a company that expeceted me to have no life and didn’t value the skills I bring.

I will say though that when and opportunity came my way – I said yes….Do you want to go to Brisbane, Aus for three months (need to leave in about a week) – yes….Do you want to move to Australia for a year or so – YES – can you leave for the middle of nowhere tonight? Maybe not a hell yes but a yes as I have taken a lot more lucrative opportunities.

Don/t sacrifice your life for work but don’t expect work to be there and wonderful if you’re not willing to give anything of yourself.

Just something to consider.

]]> By: Dariane Naborhttp://untemplater.com/self-improvement/how-i-navigate-an-unseen-path/#comment-186 Dariane Nabor Thu, 07 Jan 2010 11:49:23 +0000 http://untemplater.com/?p=610#comment-186 Robert,Your experience resonates so much with mine. First of all, acting! Some of the most thrilling moments in my life have been while performing. Pursuing acting is one of the reasons I decided to go to school in Los Angeles. Why I haven't aggressively pursued it is a whole other story though...Secondly, dropping out of school to pursue your dream? I've considered dropping many times because of how overwhelming it can be and how little benefit I feel I'm getting from all the sacrifice. Yeah, I definitely learn more during summer vacation than I do during the school year. I'm still debating the value of my education; I may do a post about that later.Third, self-doubt is my best friend, and sometimes self-deprecation tags along too. Even writing this very article was so incredibly difficult for me because of self-doubt!Thank you so much for sharing about yourself; it's very comforting to know that we're not alone. Robert,

Your experience resonates so much with mine. First of all, acting! Some of the most thrilling moments in my life have been while performing. Pursuing acting is one of the reasons I decided to go to school in Los Angeles. Why I haven’t aggressively pursued it is a whole other story though…

Secondly, dropping out of school to pursue your dream? I’ve considered dropping many times because of how overwhelming it can be and how little benefit I feel I’m getting from all the sacrifice. Yeah, I definitely learn more during summer vacation than I do during the school year. I’m still debating the value of my education; I may do a post about that later.

Third, self-doubt is my best friend, and sometimes self-deprecation tags along too. Even writing this very article was so incredibly difficult for me because of self-doubt!

Thank you so much for sharing about yourself; it’s very comforting to know that we’re not alone.

]]> By: Roberthttp://untemplater.com/self-improvement/how-i-navigate-an-unseen-path/#comment-185 Robert Thu, 07 Jan 2010 09:27:10 +0000 http://untemplater.com/?p=610#comment-185 For me, fear was the first obstacle. I was like you, at a great college- cal poly pomona- majoring in Economics and doing my acting and kung-fu on the side. After things got overwhelming I said, "fuck it! If people are out there living their dreams then this world is going to let me live mine!" That was my exact attitude, and I dropped out of the university, I didn't graduate or finish.Do I regret it? Nope. I don't care about money enough. I didn't retain much and I read and learn more outside of school than I did in school.Yes, I'm struggling. Right now, I'm juggling jobs while I plan to build a passive income stream this year as well. But when the times get hard, call me crazy but I laugh, because I'm responsible for all this.Self-doubt is like the 2nd obstacle. Because striving to earn a living through your passion isn't easy, especially when you're not a college grad, you have your expenses and the people around you think you're nuts. That's why I come to these websites and blogs to talk to and meet more crazy people and to feel not so crazy anymore.As far as self-doubt goes, it's great to 'burn the ships' so that you can never return because when the going gets tough, you may want to.Congratulations on your deciding to pursue the untemplate life. I like what you guys are doing here. For me, fear was the first obstacle. I was like you, at a great college- cal poly pomona- majoring in Economics and doing my acting and kung-fu on the side. After things got overwhelming I said, “fuck it! If people are out there living their dreams then this world is going to let me live mine!” That was my exact attitude, and I dropped out of the university, I didn’t graduate or finish.

Do I regret it? Nope. I don’t care about money enough. I didn’t retain much and I read and learn more outside of school than I did in school.

Yes, I’m struggling. Right now, I’m juggling jobs while I plan to build a passive income stream this year as well. But when the times get hard, call me crazy but I laugh, because I’m responsible for all this.

Self-doubt is like the 2nd obstacle. Because striving to earn a living through your passion isn’t easy, especially when you’re not a college grad, you have your expenses and the people around you think you’re nuts. That’s why I come to these websites and blogs to talk to and meet more crazy people and to feel not so crazy anymore.

As far as self-doubt goes, it’s great to ‘burn the ships’ so that you can never return because when the going gets tough, you may want to.

Congratulations on your deciding to pursue the untemplate life. I like what you guys are doing here.

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